As I write this piece I am reminded of days past....
Days when I was feeling the same feelings that you're feeling now. Prior to meeting my current husband I had several ex boyfriends that I thought I was madly in love with.
It turned out that none where true love, they where just infatuation on my part not real love. In your case maybe it's different however you will never find out if you don't eventually make a move toward him.
Believe me when I tell you...It's the not knowing that is the worst part. It is all about closure. We cannot move on until we gain closure in any situation, love is no different. We all have a natural process we follow in terms of our emotions; there are different phases we must go through in order to achieve our final "acceptance" of a situation...
If it turns out that you're ex boyfriend loves you as much as you love him then perhaps you'll have a real future together, one that is full of love and friendship. If it turns out that you're not truly in love with your ex boyfriend then you'll find that out as well and ultimately get some closure allowing you to move on totally free from these emotions that your feeling right now.
I really hope that you and the ex boyfriend that you love where meant to be together and you end up living happily ever after with him. It never occurs to most but in order for you to have any real shot at getting back together or even having a legitimate opportunity to speak with your ex boyfriend you must take a critical first step.
You must fast forward the "acceptance" part, this is critical. If you don't accept, then you will always come across as needy and desperate.
If you can find a way to let your ex boyfriend know that you have accepted and that you agree with the breakup then you will have a real shot at getting your ex boyfriend to respond favorably. This concept goes against logic I know but it works, it really works....
This doesn't have to be verbal, it can certainly be written however it needs to be delivered somehow and read by him. I you had a bad breakup then you may have to be a little sneaky here, but it is imperative that you make this first move if you really feel that you love you're ex boyfriend and want another shot at making the relationship work....
I know that this may sound hard to believe but there are magic words you can use to get what you want especially if it is a return phone call that you're after.
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